Thursday, January 3, 2008
Days 1 and 2
Ok so yesterday was the very first day of my new job at the Pelham office. Today was the second day. I have come to realize I absolutely LOVE my job!!! God has blessed me and so I just wanted to share that with all of you! I will keep you posted on how the job is going!
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
2008 is here! I pray that is a WONDEFUL year for all of you! May it be blessed and happy! HAPPY NEW YEAR! Love, Bonita
Constants
How do you know when people care? I'd like to think that when someone cares about you, they choose a constant in your life. Either they choose to be in your life on a CONSTANT basis or they choose the constant of never being there. I know you are asking yourself about that last constant of never being there.... Listen to what I have to say: The constant of being gone, here is when someone cares to the extent of knowing they are not a good constant IN your life. So they choose to leave and never come back.Then you are blessed with the ones who care so much they choose to be a constant in your life. Those are the ones who are there when you need them and never dissappear.
When someone chooses to leave and never return, it may hurt for the ones involve. However, it ends to be the better of the two choices. Wouldn't you think? You have to give credit where credit is due to those people. That has to be a hard choice to make, but because they care so much they do it anyways. That is unselfishness!
Now, what happens to those people who have picked the constant magic trick of being here one minute only to be gone the next. Yet again, you turn around and they are there only to be gone again.... Can it be that these people care about you? I'm really not sure. For my optimistic side, I would love to say that they do, however, it seems as though they are selfish and only care about themselves. They only pretend to "care" when they want or need something from you. So what do you do with them? Do you pick the constant of letting them in time after time? I don't believe so. I believe you have to ask yourself one question with these kinds of constants: How hurt am I when they come and go? Yes, this is a selfish act, but trust me! At some point in time you have to use your head and save yourself from the hurt and mental discouragment. You have to inorder to be a constant for someone else. If their coming and going doesn't bother you, then I believe that you have to choose to be a constant in their life and show them that YOU do care. If it seems to hurt you more, then you need to make a constant decision to love them, but with distance. It's ok to love them and be there for them, but at some point you have to choose a constant for them to be in your life. Pray for them. Love them. Help them. However, do it with clear mind and be focused. Don't give them what they WANT, but what they NEED. Say for instance, that you have a friend that supposely cares, but only comes around when they need money. Don't give them the money. You are not helping them at all. Instead, offer to carry them to dinner or small things like that. At that point, they choose their constant. Either they see love, or they get mad. If you have someone in your life who uses you, you must choose to carry on with your life without them. It's sad to say, but there are people out there who DO NOT care. Those people, you just have to choose the distant LOVE.
For your mental and spiritual health, love those with a distance.
When someone chooses to leave and never return, it may hurt for the ones involve. However, it ends to be the better of the two choices. Wouldn't you think? You have to give credit where credit is due to those people. That has to be a hard choice to make, but because they care so much they do it anyways. That is unselfishness!
Now, what happens to those people who have picked the constant magic trick of being here one minute only to be gone the next. Yet again, you turn around and they are there only to be gone again.... Can it be that these people care about you? I'm really not sure. For my optimistic side, I would love to say that they do, however, it seems as though they are selfish and only care about themselves. They only pretend to "care" when they want or need something from you. So what do you do with them? Do you pick the constant of letting them in time after time? I don't believe so. I believe you have to ask yourself one question with these kinds of constants: How hurt am I when they come and go? Yes, this is a selfish act, but trust me! At some point in time you have to use your head and save yourself from the hurt and mental discouragment. You have to inorder to be a constant for someone else. If their coming and going doesn't bother you, then I believe that you have to choose to be a constant in their life and show them that YOU do care. If it seems to hurt you more, then you need to make a constant decision to love them, but with distance. It's ok to love them and be there for them, but at some point you have to choose a constant for them to be in your life. Pray for them. Love them. Help them. However, do it with clear mind and be focused. Don't give them what they WANT, but what they NEED. Say for instance, that you have a friend that supposely cares, but only comes around when they need money. Don't give them the money. You are not helping them at all. Instead, offer to carry them to dinner or small things like that. At that point, they choose their constant. Either they see love, or they get mad. If you have someone in your life who uses you, you must choose to carry on with your life without them. It's sad to say, but there are people out there who DO NOT care. Those people, you just have to choose the distant LOVE.
For your mental and spiritual health, love those with a distance.
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
Christmas 2007
This Christmas was one of the best Christmases I have ever experienced in my life. I know that Christmas isn't about the commercialized "christmas", but the commercialized side was really special this year. God has blessed me with a great job and blessed me with the ability to make my daughters' Christmas list come true. Early Christmas morning, I watched my little girls' eyes get big in amazement as they saw their playhouse and all their toys. My heart was so filled by how happy my little girls were, that it didn't even matter if I recieved anything or not.
The spiritual side was one of the best too. This year I really got to enjoy my girls and I sat and wondered at how Mary was with her son Jesus. He had to be just like my little girls are everyday. Little life is special.. Life in itself is special. I love this time of the year! It just makes you think of how blessed your life really is.
If you have children, can you imagine how it felt for Mary to watch her son die on that cross? From a small tiny baby to a toddler who is filled with wonder to a man with a great purpose none of us can comprehend. Her heart must have broke for him the die he died. She carried a weight on her shoulder to bare her son, but she did it anyways, for the life of you and I.
Thanks be to God for sending his son on that Christmas day! For all of us are blessed this Chirstmas season because of that Christmas night. I hope all of you had a wonderful Christmas and a great year to come! God bless!
The spiritual side was one of the best too. This year I really got to enjoy my girls and I sat and wondered at how Mary was with her son Jesus. He had to be just like my little girls are everyday. Little life is special.. Life in itself is special. I love this time of the year! It just makes you think of how blessed your life really is.
If you have children, can you imagine how it felt for Mary to watch her son die on that cross? From a small tiny baby to a toddler who is filled with wonder to a man with a great purpose none of us can comprehend. Her heart must have broke for him the die he died. She carried a weight on her shoulder to bare her son, but she did it anyways, for the life of you and I.
Thanks be to God for sending his son on that Christmas day! For all of us are blessed this Chirstmas season because of that Christmas night. I hope all of you had a wonderful Christmas and a great year to come! God bless!
Little Things Mean A Lot!
Wrapping Paper" {Little Things Mean a Lot !!!}
The story goes that some time ago a mother punished her five year old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper.Money was tight and she became even more upset when the child used the gold paper to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her mother the next morning and then said, "This is for you, Momma." The mother was embarrassed by her earlier over reaction, but her anger flared again when she opened the box and found it was empty. She spoke to her daughter in a harsh manner. "Don't you know, young lady, when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package?" She had tears in her eyes and said, "Oh, Momma, it's not empty! I blew kisses into it until it was full." The mother was crushed.She fell on her knees and put her arms around her little girl, and she begged her forgiveness for her thoughtless anger. An accident took the life of the child only a short time later, and it is told that the mother kept that gold box by her bed for all the years of her life. Whenever she was discouraged or faced difficult problemsshe would open the box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there. In a very real sense, each of us, as human beings, have been given a Golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and GOD. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.
The story goes that some time ago a mother punished her five year old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper.Money was tight and she became even more upset when the child used the gold paper to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her mother the next morning and then said, "This is for you, Momma." The mother was embarrassed by her earlier over reaction, but her anger flared again when she opened the box and found it was empty. She spoke to her daughter in a harsh manner. "Don't you know, young lady, when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package?" She had tears in her eyes and said, "Oh, Momma, it's not empty! I blew kisses into it until it was full." The mother was crushed.She fell on her knees and put her arms around her little girl, and she begged her forgiveness for her thoughtless anger. An accident took the life of the child only a short time later, and it is told that the mother kept that gold box by her bed for all the years of her life. Whenever she was discouraged or faced difficult problemsshe would open the box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there. In a very real sense, each of us, as human beings, have been given a Golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and GOD. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
How do you handle situations that seem too big?
I have brought this question to my own self in the past week. In the last year, I've had big ups and downs. They mostly seem like downs, but I try to keep positive. In a years time, my marriage finally fell apart after 4 years of trying my best. I never dealt with that pain because I knew how my family felt about my marriage. They seemed almost ecstatic, no probably more relieved that it was finally over. Well, because they felt that way I never shared how I really felt about my marriage falling apart. Also in that years time, I met a man who I learned to love with all my heart. This is another reason that I never dealt with issues. He took my mind off of the hurt I felt. I wasn't feeling alone so never had to think about things that were all fixing to come crashing down.
In the middle of the summer, it was brought to me that my office may close down. I still kept positive because I knew that God had everything under control. Since June everything has been going well and business has picked up, until yesterday! It looks as though my office is moving another 15 mins away or even closing. Now, I had orginally had peace about the whole thing because I was told I would still have a job. That might not be the case anymore. This has me very worried.
Back, in September, I lost the man that I loved. We decided to end it for several reasons, even though, we both feel the same for one another. Now this is hard for me to crasp because I don't understand how you long to be with someone, but decide not to be with them. It seems crazy to me! Well, we were friends, until last week. I decided we couldn't move on unless we cut out all contact. This is hard for me. Very hard. I miss him like nothing I've ever missed. My heart longs to be with him, but it can't. And I feel a physical pain.
Now I'm telling you all this for a reason. Through everything in my life it seems as though I have peace about everything. This is not because of me. Its only because of God. I'm not saying any of this because I want pity. That's exactly why I haven't said anything to many people about how I feel. People have come to me and said, " I'm so proud of you for the way you handle the stuff in your life!" Wow! That is something big for someone to hear. Exspecially me.
How do I feel? I feel alone, I feel heartbroken, and honestly, some parts of me doesn't even know how I feel. Why am I saying this? Because I have peace! I know that God is over all things and this too he is over. He has someone prepared for me when the time is right. That person will be more than I ever imagined possible. God had my job under control. I need not to worry! I pray and let the Lord know what my heart's desire is and whatever his answer is is more than I could want for myself. So when you have the world crashing down around, have peace. Know that God is here with you. He is fighting with you and wanting you to come out victorious! Remember, God made all things. He is above all things. So why worry when you have the Master on your side? I have peace and I know everything is gonna be alright! Praise God!
In the middle of the summer, it was brought to me that my office may close down. I still kept positive because I knew that God had everything under control. Since June everything has been going well and business has picked up, until yesterday! It looks as though my office is moving another 15 mins away or even closing. Now, I had orginally had peace about the whole thing because I was told I would still have a job. That might not be the case anymore. This has me very worried.
Back, in September, I lost the man that I loved. We decided to end it for several reasons, even though, we both feel the same for one another. Now this is hard for me to crasp because I don't understand how you long to be with someone, but decide not to be with them. It seems crazy to me! Well, we were friends, until last week. I decided we couldn't move on unless we cut out all contact. This is hard for me. Very hard. I miss him like nothing I've ever missed. My heart longs to be with him, but it can't. And I feel a physical pain.
Now I'm telling you all this for a reason. Through everything in my life it seems as though I have peace about everything. This is not because of me. Its only because of God. I'm not saying any of this because I want pity. That's exactly why I haven't said anything to many people about how I feel. People have come to me and said, " I'm so proud of you for the way you handle the stuff in your life!" Wow! That is something big for someone to hear. Exspecially me.
How do I feel? I feel alone, I feel heartbroken, and honestly, some parts of me doesn't even know how I feel. Why am I saying this? Because I have peace! I know that God is over all things and this too he is over. He has someone prepared for me when the time is right. That person will be more than I ever imagined possible. God had my job under control. I need not to worry! I pray and let the Lord know what my heart's desire is and whatever his answer is is more than I could want for myself. So when you have the world crashing down around, have peace. Know that God is here with you. He is fighting with you and wanting you to come out victorious! Remember, God made all things. He is above all things. So why worry when you have the Master on your side? I have peace and I know everything is gonna be alright! Praise God!
Monday, December 3, 2007
Holiday Traditions
Have you ever wondered why we have traditions? This weekend I took over the familiy tradition of decorating the yard and house with Christmas lights. Ok, so normally we do this on Thanksgiving dat, however, I was lazy Thanksgiving and didn't want to do it. Because I believe that decorating is very important at Christmas time, I made myself get up and do it. I can say that my body didn't do it quietly. It protested the whole way. This lil' family tradition became a hassle! UGH! I am now sick and have a splitting headache because I decided to carry on the family tradition....
It didn't come easily either. I had all these grand plans and none of them worked. It's called electricity. Yes! Did you know that if you are not able to plug the lights into electricity they are not quite as pretty? Oh yeah, so now you have to figure out ways to plug them up. How about a hundred extension cords? I know that sounds crazy, but thats what traditons are made out of. Not to mention that I had to climb a ladder to try to put light in a tall tree. Only to find out that I didn't have enough and I would have to take them down.
So, I've decided to start my own tradition and just forget all the lights at Christmas.... There we go! I'll put up a tree and the stockings, but the lights on the house have to go. Now, I'm done venting about stupid traditions. Hope you all have a wonderful holiday season.
It didn't come easily either. I had all these grand plans and none of them worked. It's called electricity. Yes! Did you know that if you are not able to plug the lights into electricity they are not quite as pretty? Oh yeah, so now you have to figure out ways to plug them up. How about a hundred extension cords? I know that sounds crazy, but thats what traditons are made out of. Not to mention that I had to climb a ladder to try to put light in a tall tree. Only to find out that I didn't have enough and I would have to take them down.
So, I've decided to start my own tradition and just forget all the lights at Christmas.... There we go! I'll put up a tree and the stockings, but the lights on the house have to go. Now, I'm done venting about stupid traditions. Hope you all have a wonderful holiday season.
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